How do you protect yourself when you feel shame?
Do you run away?
Do you get defensive?
Do you counter attack?
If any of these things sound like you you may be battling shame. Shame is one of those things that can take us all by surprise. People often confuse shame with guilt. According to Brené Brown, there is one huge difference. Guilt is “I’ve done something bad,” shame is ” I AM bad!” There is a distinct difference!
Recognizing when you are triggered or parts of you that carry shame, are triggered is the important key. Ask yourself the questions above , and see if you use shame shields to avoid other people seeing that you are ashamed. If so, pause and contemplate if you want to allow yourself to respond or react.
Marriage and Family Therapist 